A mama's life

I'm a big believer in helping my children become independent as early as possible,This includes problem solving. When the boys have and argument I usually tell them "Figure it out yourselves" and let it go until it is resolved or I really need to step in, which is almost never. But when it comes to blows that's it ,I have to step in. We DO NOT TOLERATE using your hands as weapons. The conflict was as follows. The kitchen had to be cleaned so I told the boys "Once that episode is done you need to pause the TV and clean the the kitchen,I don't care who does what but it needs to be cleaned" AJ wanted to unload the dishwasher and put the dishes away not wanting to mess with nasty dishes.Michael was not happy that he beat him to it so the argument started. Abraham was holding on strong about not needing his help and he can do it all by himself and Michael wanted to help him to do it. After a few minutes of arguing Abraham got mad and punched

Sometimes we get what we were least expecting .And what do you do with that? Do you pout and scream do you take in or do you just go with  the flow? My boys tend to sometimes think life is not fair, they cry about it and just make it known they don't like the outcome of the situation.And my response to that is "Sometimes you WIN and sometimes you LOSE ,and today you LOSS" Well as an adult its doesn't change the fact that things can go the way you didn't want them to and you have the right to also have a moment and let it out,but not the right to sit and dwell on it and make it a comfortable place or a nest to spend the rest of the your life. It should be a moment to stop to reflect on the why the answer you got was not what you were waiting for. There are many times in my prayer life when I sit and pray and I tell the Lord this is what I want and how I want it and when I want it,and I sit and wait for it to happen but then God tells me "Ok,I hear what y

One of my greatest joys was seeing my oldest son Nehemiah go off to College and not just to college but Bible college.Something that Milton and I prayed for from the minute we knew we were expecting him.To see him love and respect for God and others makes us proud to say "We did alright the first time around, lets try this 5 more times " I'm not saying we didn't make mistakes or that he was a perfect child /teen but it wasn't over whelming that we couldn't handle it.It just took at HARD tug to remind him what was expected of a child of God. Many people ask "How do you do it?"  "You're super mom"  "You're amazing" . Well I usually say "I just do it and at the end of the day I say thank you Jesus the day is done" and I'm not amazing or super mom. I'M JUST A MOM. And I Have chosen to pick whats most important and what really needs attention the most. God has and always will be number one in or f

 I Love when God says wait, So I sit and wait honestly and truly I feel like I'm sitting on the chair and my legs are just shaking away and my heart is racing fast. Waiting waiting waiting, getting ready to leap off my chair and He reminds me, just a bit longer just sit and wait,So I sit a bit longer and then He says to me " Quick, come look and see but,its only a sneak peak of something BIG I'm going to do.Now go back sit and praise while you wait" And that right there is enough to keep me in my seat,at the edge of it,but sitting praising and waiting.   I'm Ok with not seeing the whole picture or the whole plan til He is completely done because I love surprises and I know that God knows that about me.He has been a great and loving Father to me. I trust that He only has good things in store for me even if at the moment I don't like it or don't agree with the process. He knows that I'm faithful to Him. The same way He has been to me and I will pra

So I used to love Wednesdays.The twins get off from school early we get more time together. Its the hump of the week,and Milton has not much going on Thursdays for the most part and Friday is family day.Saturday is relax day bum around for a bit and get ready for Sunday.Sunday is a full day at church one of my favorite days of the week.But Wednesday has become the CRAZY day here are  the reasons why....... 1) Milton goes into work a bit later because he works til late at night.( I enjoy our mornings together. That's a plus)   2) Its early release at school. Why?!!!! 3) Which means early naps for babies. 4) Waking them up earlier. 5) Having lunch later. 6) Loading up in the car right after lunch. 7) Wait at the bus stop for 20 minutes (BABIES DO NOT LIKE TO BE IN CAR SEATS WITH A CAR THAT'S IS NOT MOVING!) 8) Play time snack time is way too long for babies 9) Get ready for church. 10) Go to Church. 11) LATE DINNER. 12) Rush HOME and Rush to BED. 13) AND

UPDATE on Nissi's teething : The amber necklace seems to be working already she slept till about 2am,She stayed up for about an hr but just laid very peacefully with an occasional whimper,On the other hand Baby boy woke up crying non stop for hours and nothing would calm him down and would just toss and turn I finally got some lavender n clove oil mixed with coconut oil and rub it on his jaws and gums ,baby vaporu on his Chest and he finally clammed down but cried off and on all nigh it was a rough night for this mama And i just put in another order of necklaces .......