A mama's life

I'm a big believer in helping my children become independent as early as possible,This includes problem solving. When the boys have and argument I usually tell them "Figure it out yourselves" and let it go until it is resolved or I really need to step in, which is almost never. But when it comes to blows that's it ,I have to step in. We DO NOT TOLERATE using your hands as weapons. The conflict was as follows. The kitchen had to be cleaned so I told the boys "Once that episode is done you need to pause the TV and clean the the kitchen,I don't care who does what but it needs to be cleaned" AJ wanted to unload the dishwasher and put the dishes away not wanting to mess with nasty dishes.Michael was not happy that he beat him to it so the argument started. Abraham was holding on strong about not needing his help and he can do it all by himself and Michael wanted to help him to do it. After a few minutes of arguing Abraham got mad and punched

Sometimes we get what we were least expecting .And what do you do with that? Do you pout and scream do you take in or do you just go with  the flow? My boys tend to sometimes think life is not fair, they cry about it and just make it known they don't like the outcome of the situation.And my response to that is "Sometimes you WIN and sometimes you LOSE ,and today you LOSS" Well as an adult its doesn't change the fact that things can go the way you didn't want them to and you have the right to also have a moment and let it out,but not the right to sit and dwell on it and make it a comfortable place or a nest to spend the rest of the your life. It should be a moment to stop to reflect on the why the answer you got was not what you were waiting for. There are many times in my prayer life when I sit and pray and I tell the Lord this is what I want and how I want it and when I want it,and I sit and wait for it to happen but then God tells me "Ok,I hear what y